Why Go On?

Since our last big question, Job’s friends have heard of the tragedy (2.11), and have come to provide comfort through their presence (2.13). This is so important when people are suffering; just be there.

Don’t worry about having profound insights to share, just be there.

Don’t try to throw a Bible verse at them to fix everything, just be there with them in their grief.

As we move into chapter 3, Job starts a lament and brings up today’s big question – why go on?

“Why is light given to him who is in misery,
and life to the bitter in soul,
who long for death, but it comes not,
and dig for it more than for hidden treasures,
who rejoice exceedingly
and are glad when they find the grave?
Why is light given to a man whose way is hidden,
whom God has hedged in?

Job 3.20-23

When he says ‘why is light given‘, he is simply asking ‘why go on‘? Why do my eyes still open? Why am I still living? Why, when I am so miserable, and my life is so bitter, should I go on? Why should I go on when I feel so hedged in, so constricted, when death seems like a better option? Job isn’t, so I read, seriously thinking about committing suicide, simply pouring out his deep and raw emotions (EnduringWord).

Friends – taking your own life is never the answer. 

We see in Revelation 9.6 that things will get so bad during the last days that people will seek death. This has to be right up there with the Devil’s greatest lies – death will be a sweet release and you will go to a better place. This is a plague of demonic deception on our world – kill yourself and it will all be better. Job is not seriously considering this (1.8), but sadly many do, and many see it through. 

So, why go on?

First, the idea that your life is worthless is a lie. You are made in the image of God (Genesis 1.27), and this means your life has inherent and intrinsic value. Simply being alive is evidence that you matter, that you have worth, and that you should be alive. There are no mistakes made by the Lord, you are no accident.

Second, you are loved. You are known, loved, and valued by the creator of heaven and earth. You are so loved that He personally took action to reveal Himself to you so that you can begin to seek Him and pursue relationship with Him, and He went even further and opened the door to that relationship by sending Jesus.

Light is given, you are alive for this very purpose – to know of, to grow in relationship with, and to be loved by God. Feeling strong emotions is ok (3.24-26), expressing them is ok, talking about them is ok. 

It’s ok to not be ok.

Talk to someone about how you feel.

Reach out to someone about not being ok.

If this is how you feel, this will never change the truth that you are loved, that you matter, that your life has value and worth and dignity, and that Jesus died for you. That is why we go on.

In Memory of Jarrid Wilson

This morning I woke up to the terribly sad news that a Pastor in the U.S. took his own life and went to be with the Lord. He was not old in any sense of the word, barely 30. You can read the story here

Pastor and Mental Health Advocate Jarrid Wilson Dies by Suicide






Photo from Harvest Christian Fellowship.

Jarrid Wilson served at Harvest Christian Fellowship and started a ministry aimed at helping those with mental health issues called ‘Anthem of Hope’. He spoke out many times about depression and was open and honest about his ongoing struggles. 

When things like this happen we have so many questions;

Why did this happen?

What went wrong in this person’s life?

If we knew the person we think could I have in any way prevented this?

Society can often be quick to call suicide a sin, mental health issues a sin, depression a sin. But think, would you convict a cancer patient of being in sin because their body does not work according to its intended design? Yet somehow mental health issues are quick to be cast aside as iniquity, depression as something you can just think away, and suicide as the ultimate and unforgivable sin. The Bible does speak of an unforgivable sin, but friends, suicide is not it.

Dealing with grief and loss brings many emotions to the surface. We feel deep, all-encompassing sadness, we feel anger, we feel anxiety, we feel guilt, we feel lost, and we feel confused. Why did this happen Lord?

At times when we do not understand, we must fall back on things we do understand. 

We know that God loves us.

We know that He sent Jesus to redeem us from this fallen world we live in.

We know that He proved His love for us by offering Himself as a ransom for many, for all, whilst we were still sinners. 

We know that nothing can separate us from the love of God, not now, not ever. 

Larry Taylor, whose son tragically took his own life in 1986 wrote this,

I know the sorrow of loss, but I also know the comfort of the Holy Spirit. I know God’s forgiveness, and I know first hand that God can take a broken and ruined life and transform it into a thing of beauty and grace.

He goes on to say

Our society is plagued with the scourge of sin, not least of which is the horror of suicide which appears to be on the increase…The answer is a personal relationship with the living Jesus who loves you and can forgive you, restore you, comfort you, and heal you. When He returns, may He find us bringing His healing love to others. 

The Wilson family, and every other family who have dealt with this unique type of loss need the healing love of Jesus today, and every day from now until He returns or calls us home.

Join me today in praying for Jarrid’s wife, children, and family.